I have learned from working with hundreds of people that low libido is the bodies natural response to stressors that are going on with the individual or in the relationship. We don’t want to do something that causes pain, displeasure, can be boring, feels unsafe, causes frustration, is mechanical or Read more…
You, like many other people, could be taking it personally when your partner doesn’t come to orgasm during love-making. Are you worried that you’ve done something wrong? Do you wonder if you aren’t pleasing them at all? Have these frustrations contributed to a fight or a tense moment which has led Read more…
Are you and your partner in a struggle between, “I just want to have sex” and, “I just want to sleep”? Maybe you have small kids, run a household while maintaining a full-time job, have financial obligations that are mounting and are attempting to spend time together as a couple enjoying Read more…
Most of my clients are head types. They spend most of their days on the computer, in offices and in and out of meetings. The “head type” personality dominates our culture and in fact, is looked at as an asset. You may do better at school, excel in the corporate Read more…
Erotic Massage can turn around the most tired and boring sex lives! Many of the couples I work with have been together for a long time and have full-time jobs, kids, long commutes and modern-day stressors. They report being too tired to have anything but boring sex. When I say Read more…
In order to have a vital, satisfying sex life we need to have a healthy mind-body connection. What does that mean? What we put into our bodies, the health of our relationships, and how we view ourselves in relation to the world all need to be taken into consideration. Sometimes, Read more…
The Art of Receiving is a wonderful practice that can help to liberate a woman’s sense of self and boost her self-esteem. As women, we often hear compliments and let them fly over our heads, in one ear and out the other or simply nod and say, “uh huh thanks”. Read more…
Is erectile dysfunction getting you down? It doesn’t have to! I want to debunk another myth that our culture likes to throw around. The myth that men must be rock hard and stay that way whenever they get aroused. I find that this myth has done a lot of damage Read more…
These are the common descriptions of ED and if you want another way to think about ED please see my blog post: It’s NOT Erectile Dysfunction. It is important to note that psychogenic erectile dysfunction should be ruled out first before adopting a “label” of erectile dysfunction. Organic Erectile Dysfunction, also Read more…
Who isn’t stressed in this modern world? We all take on a lot of responsibilities and it’s no wonder sometimes our sex lives take a back burner when the mounting world of “adulting” comes first! With so many people to care for and so many ways in which we put Read more…
Are you a little intimidated by your lover’s request that you take the reins and show them who’s boss? Do you want to access your inner Female Dominant but don’t know how? Are you excited about the possibility of being in control in the bedroom but need some tips and Read more…
I had a panel of Sexologists and one Doctor join me for a wonderful discussion about Female Ejaculation at Oakland’s local sex toy shop: Feelmore510. Madison Young, Dr. Ari Zadel, Pavini Moray and I dove into the subject of Female Ejaculation and had a lot of fun discussing the controversy. As Sexologists, we Read more…
Sex Therapy has a rich history with it’s roots in ancient societies and cultures. While not known as “therapy” in those times, the idea that people and couples needed some kind of assistance with sexual issues including sex positions, sex education, help with having pleasure, intimacy and fulfillment in their Read more…
In the history of female sexuality research, there has been a lot of discussion about clitoral and vaginal orgasms resulting in controversy within the medical, therapeutic and sexological fields of study. A theory was proposed in 1905 by Sigmund Freud indicating a difference between an immature and a mature orgasm. Read more…
Treatment of Sexual Dysfunction by William E. Hartman, PhD. and Marilyn A. Fithian is an important contribution to the field of Sexology. The book relays the unique and pioneering 2 week, in-person intensive sex therapy program of Hartman and Fithian in their clinic for couple’s sexual dysfunctions. The Read more…