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SquirtGasms! Female Ejaculation Workshop 9/30/15 San Francisco, CA

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I am once again teaching this popular class in San Francisco.  It is my PASSION to teach about Squirting! I hope you enjoy the class with presentation, LIVE DEMO & Hands-On Lab.

*Please Note: If you are coming as an Individual you are welcome to stay for Presentation & LIVE DEMO, however, you must leave during the Hands-On Lab.  The Lab is for couples/partners/friends of 2 or more.*

Wednesday, September 30 6:30-9:30pm Center for Sex & Culture $30 Individual, $55 Couple

We will:
– Discuss the myths and truths of the female ejaculate liquid and answer the question, “is it pee?”
– Learn important anatomy of the vagina including G-spot, Skene’s glands and the PC muscles.
– Discuss toys and techniques to encourage Female Ejaculation.
– Have a chance to practice in the Hands-On Lab and be coached by Anya.

– Take home fun exercises to get started right away.

*This workshop is for Individuals and Couples ~ in order to stay for the Hands-On Lab you must come with a partner to practice with, otherwise you are welcome to attend the presentation & Live Demo.*

*Please bring a yoga mat, pillow and blanket if possible!*


 “My partner and I took Anya’s class. Online tutorials just didn’t cut it. Anya approached the subject with a really impressive academic rigor, while simultaneously making sure the context was accessible. She also encouraged questions, so I really got to geek out on some super interesting biological stuff. She maintains a light-heartedness and warmth through the class, which really helps put shy people like me at ease in a group setting. The live demo was invaluable, and the fact that I actually got to practice on a real person really cemented the information we were given at the beginning of the class. I am looking forward to someday soon having a private session with her and my partner!” -Melanie F.

“After searching online and seeing Anya’s seminars, and checking her references with other businesses, we were excited to set up a meeting with Anya. We had tried for a very long time to achieve a new experience in my orgasms. After spending hundreds of dollars on different sex toys to help us, none of them worked to cause the squirt orgasm. We booked our trip to fly to San Francisco and meet with Anya and were excited for our next step. Our goal in setting up a private session with Anya was to have the one on one walk thru and help us see what we were doing wrong or right. She meet us privately and gave us the intimate and knowledgeable information that we needed. Within a week after we left San Francisco, I was able to achieve our goal. Now it seems very easy to achieve. Only through your very detailed instructions have I been able to understand and make this happen. My husband and I are very grateful to you. He has been thrilled about this, as I am. We think its wonderful that Anya is able to help people is such a rewarding way, we are forever grateful.” -Anonymous From Texas


Opening the LOTUS ~ Women’s Sexual Empowerment Circle, Fall 2015 Berkeley, CA

Opening the LOTUS ~ Women’s Sexual Empowerment Circle,  Fall 2015 

Where: East Bay Healing Collective & Online

When: In person 5 Fridays 6:30 – 8:30pm 9/25, 10/9, 10/23, 11/6, 11/20

Online: via FaceBook private group & Google Hangouts at own pace and time

Price: $220 paid in full or $44 in 5 installments

This powerful, transformational 10 week series is a unique female-centric approach to unlocking a woman’s full sexual potential.

LOTUS blooms in 5 stages:

L ~ Loving Ourselves Fully

O ~ Opening to Orgasmic Bliss

T ~ Trusting Our Authentic Expressions

U ~ Union with Self, Beloved & Divine

S ~ Surrendering to Satisfaction

We will spend 2 weeks on each segment of the LOTUS Method, 1 week in person and 1 week online through a group, interactive forum.

With lots of time for sharing our stories, group and diad work, creative expression through writing, movement, and art and homeplay exercises that can be done solo and with a partner.

This is a special bonding experience that brings women together to talk about subjects including: sex, orgasm, desire, unexpressed pleasure, expressed pleasure, embodiment, body image and more in a safe container and setting that is rarely found in our culture.  Anya creates spaces that feel free of shame, taboo and stigma to give permission for our authentic voices to be heard.  By connecting to other women in a circle we open ourselves up to be seen and heard and to support and be supported by one another.

Some things to look forward to:

Presentations by Anya on Sex Education including but not limited to: female ejaculation, full bodied orgasm, multiple orgasms, kink, female sexual response system, sex toys, pleasuring your lover..

HomePlay exercises including but not limited to: Masturbation Meditations, Sex Toy Shopping, Kinky Erotic Massage with a partner, Date nights with Self & Beloved, Communication exercises, Journaling..

For more information and to schedule an opening conversation with Anya to see if this would be a good fit for you please call or text:

415-570-1302 or email:



Bondassage: Kinky Erotic Massage for Lovers 9/19/15 11-5pm Oakland, CA

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Where: Black Thorn, Lake Merritt, Oakland

When: Saturday, September 19, 2015 11am – 5pm

Price: $260 per Couple

Catered lunch, snacks and beverages provided.

All play toys, massage tables, safer sex supplies provided

Bondassage: Kinky Erotic Massage for Lovers Day-Long Immersion with Anya D.

Bondassage is a fun, hot and exciting way to add Erotic Massage, Sensation Play, Sensory Deprivation & a little (or a lot) of Kink to your sex life.

Ideal for couples wanting to add variation to their intimate play, find ways to connect deeply, build on an already exciting sex life (or build an exciting sex life!), learn new skills to spice it up & have sexy, erotic fun together.

In this day long class you will learn:

1. Silky skin to skin contact: Basic Swedish massage strokes from featherlight to firm pressure
2. Body to body flow using warm oils
3. How to heighten Sensation: Using silks, furs, various textures, hot and cold temperatures, sound and sensory deprivation
4. How to effectively communicate what kind of touch you need and desire from your lover
5. Amazing genital massage techniques to incorporate into an erotic massage
6. How to play with light Domination & submission (if desired) to keep it spicy
In this day long immersion you will sink into a full-bodied experience and take away the skills and techniques to perform a 90mn to 2 hour Kinky Erotic Massage.

This full day Bondassage: Kinky Erotic Massage for Lovers class Includes:

*Live demonstrations
*Massage Tables
*All toys and supplies
*Bondassage: Kinky Erotic Massage for Lovers book by Jaeleen Bennis & Eve Minax
*Access to full library of Bondassage music
*Access to resources and a dozen ‘how to videos’ for genital massage through Bondassage University
*Catered lunch
*Small, intimate class
*Fully equipped play space in Lake Merritt, Oakland

With lots of presentation, live demonstrations and hands-on practice!

The class includes catered lunch, beverages and snacks. Each couple will have a massage table to use for the entire weekend as well as cushions, yoga mats and comfortable seating for a cozy learning experience.

Please wear loose clothing, feel comfortable being partially or fully naked, bring any massage items you would love to play with and come with an open mind and desire to learn!

Testimonial from the last Day-Long Immersion @ The Armory Studios, San Francisco, CA:

“Michael and I had a great time. We’ve been talking about it every day since and have made a commitment to practicing Bondassage twice a month with each other. We’re looking forward to viewing the rest of the videos online at Bondassage University. Thanks for a great class!”


SquirtGasms! Guide to Female Orgasm and Ejaculation ~ A Women’s only Safe Space to Discuss, Learn about and Explore our Beautiful Bodies.

SquirtGasms! Guide to Female Orgasm and Ejaculation

~ A Women’s only Safe Space to Discuss, Learn about and Explore our Beautiful Bodies.

Wednesday, August 6, 2014 6:30-9:30 Center for Sex & Culture, San Francisco $20

Do you want to know more about your body?

Are you curious about your Orgasm?

Do you enjoy learning about your own anatomy and physiology?

Are you interested in a women’s only space to share your stories?

Come to this exciting women’s only class where we will have a lecture on female orgasm, female ejaculation, how to stimulate ourselves for maximum pleasure and where you will have the opportunity to see a Live Demo and participate in a hands-on lab (lab is optional).

This is a Safe Space created for Women Only as a way for us to get to know our own bodies, share our stories and be held in a loving container to go deeper into our sexual selves and the possibility of expanded pleasure.

Anya de Montigny is a Sexuality Expert with over 18 years experience working with individuals, couples & groups. Anya has credentials as a Sex Educator, Clinical Sexologist, Certified Sexological Bodyworker & Bondassage Practitioner with training from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, San Francisco Sex Information (SFSI) and was a resident at the live-in sensual research center One Taste. Anya combines her classroom training with her years of hands-on work to bring to the public the best in adult sex education. Anya is the host of the weekly radio show, The O Word Sex Talk Radio on She specializes in working with Women & Couples in her private practice in the San Francisco Bay Area and is available for coaching and consultation throughout the world and via Skype.


For more information, to ask Anya questions about the class or to get in touch for any other reason please email: or call 415-570-1302