Often, we are not taught how to set boundaries, ask for what we want, feel entitled to healthy pleasure, understand our own anatomy and engage in healthy communication. We may not have learned that we can and should have orgasms and fulfillment in our lives and relationships. Body image issues, potential past traumas or negative experiences and low self-esteem can all stand in the way of feeling sexy and initiating what we want in relationships.
“Anya is a healer. Through counseling and education Anya helped me find my libido. I was experiencing some suffering due to the ending of a relationship. Anya was able to create a loving container that helped me feel safe and supported as we explored what was at the root of my lack of sex drive. She taught me practical ways to create safety for myself when in sexual situations with my partners. She also helped me to become more embodied which has led to more joy in my romantic life. Anya is a knowledgeable counselor with a tremendous amount of wisdom to bestow. I recommend her highly!” ~ Makana
Transgender & Gender-Fluid
I work with individuals and couples along the gender spectrum including gender non-conforming and transgender people. By co-creating a safe space to talk about issues related to sexuality in a non-binary body, a body and identity in transition or post-transition and/or other forms of identity and sexuality related issues, you will find that you can relax and let go.
Have the flames died down in your relationship? Are you having trouble communicating your Desires? Does one of you desire sex more than the other? We all go through ups and downs in our intimate relationships and sometimes it feels like there is no end in sight when conflicts or frustrations arise. The good news is that as soon as you commit to working on your relationship and reach out for help the transformation starts to happen.
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“After spending hundreds of dollars on different sex toys to help us, none of them worked to cause the squirt orgasm. We booked our trip to fly to San Francisco and met with Anya and were excited for our next step. Our goal in setting up a private session with Anya was to have the one on one walk through and help us see what we were doing wrong or right. She meet us privately and gave us the intimate and knowledgeable information that we needed. Within a week after we left San Francisco, I was able to achieve our goal”. Anonymous From Texas
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I have been a student of the body for 20 years. With extensive training in body therapies, nutrition, yoga, dance and sexual health I have found that in order to have a vital, satisfying sex life we need to have a healthy mind-body connection. What does that mean? What we eat, how we work, how[…]
Welcome to TeachMeAboutSex, a safe space for Individual, Couple and Group Sexuality Education and Consulting. I am a Sex Educator & Clinical Sexologist with a holistic, comprehensive and non-judgemental approach that guides people towards a healthy lifestyle. I specialize in individual and couple sexuality consulting for those who are seeking education, guidance, and compassion on their[…]
I just had a panel of Sexperts join me for a wonderful discussion about Female and Trans-Male (FTM) Ejaculation at Oakland’s local sex toy shop: Feelmore510. With Madison Young, Dr. Ari Zadel and Pavini Moray we dove into the subject of Female and FTM ejaculation and had a lot of fun discussing it from many angles. As a Sexologist[…]
Long-distance dating is a thing unto itself. It is a whole different and new way of relating to a lover. There are times of amazing, intense and deep connection, there are times of talking for hours and hours, there are ways to stay connected all day long through many tech platforms. And, it can get[…]
As a Sex Educator, I talk a lot about setting boundaries, knowing what our true desires are and how to get them. Recently, a person whom I considered a colleague crossed a boundary with me that I have spent some time grappling with. It started with a FaceBook message that he had heard of[…]
Guest Editorial courtesy of Adam & Eve Adult Toys *thanks for your contribution!* When it comes to loving ourselves, we should do it inside and out. That means loving the way you look, the way you think, and the way you approach life. But it also means truly loving yourself in the sexual realm as well.[…]
Women are my favorite clients because women want to grow and when they want to grow they change rapidly. It seems that when a woman is done living unfulfilled and has reached a point of pain that is too uncomfortable to live with any longer she reaches out for help. Maybe it’s our cultural upbringing[…]
Most of my clients are head types. That is to say, they spend most of their days on the computer, in offices and in and out of meetings. This type of personality dominates our culture and in fact, is looked at as an asset. You may do better at school, excel in the corporate[…]
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Sex Therapy has a rich history with it’s roots in ancient societies and cultures. While not known as “therapy” in those times, the idea that people and couples needed some kind of assistance with sexual issues including sex positions, sex education, help with having pleasure, intimacy and fulfillment in their relationships was alive in human[…]
In the history of female sexuality research, there has been a lot of discussion about clitoral and vaginal orgasms resulting in controversy within the medical, therapeutic and sexological fields of study. A theory was proposed in 1905 by Sigmund Freud indicating a difference between an immature and a mature orgasm. An adolescent orgasm, as[…]
Organic Erectile Dysfunction, also known as Organic Impotence, refers to the inability to obtain an erection firm enough for vaginal penetration, or the inability to sustain the erection until completion of intercourse. Psychogenic erectile dysfunction is defined as the persistent inability to achieve or maintain erection satisfactory for sexual performance owing predominantly or exclusively to[…]
Treatment of Sexual Dysfunction by William E. Hartman, PhD. and Marilyn A. Fithian is an important contribution to the field of Sexology. The book relays the unique and pioneering 2 week, in-person intensive sex therapy program of Hartman and Fithian in their clinic for couple’s sexual dysfunctions. The team of Hartman and Fithian[…]
In our fast paced society we tend to overwork ourselves and then crash at the end of a long day simply because the body says, “no more”. Sometimes relaxation only occurs during sleeping hours but is surrounded by busyness and do do do. Intentional relaxation, however, is setting up a space or a container and an[…]