Men | Dr. Anya - San Francisco Bay Area Sex & Intimacy Coaching

I work with men who have a variety of sexual issues including:

Porn Use or Addiction leading to ED, EE & DE (delayed ejaculation)
Kinks & Fetishes
Older Virgins

Porn Use or Addiction resulting in ED, EE or DE

Many men are no longer able to masturbate without the aid of visuals to bring them to climax. Over time this can change the circuitry of the brain to only respond to greater and greater levels of visual aids sometimes without any real feelings of pleasure or satisfaction but often times resulting in frustration, guilt, shame and lack of pleasure. Over time, the body adapts to the signals it gets sent and no longer responds to other sexual cues like touch, kissing, romance, the site of a real human body etc. This can result in a variety of male sexual dysfunctions. The good news is this can be reversible using a combination of weaning off porn, stopping porn altogether, “rebooting” the brain, somatic “masturbation meditations”, slow sex with your partner, sensual massage with partner and more.

Kinks & Fetishes

Are you struggling to integrate your fetish or kinks into your long-term relationship? Have you thought of going outside your relationship to get your needs met?

Do you feel guilty for having these desires but don’t know who to talk to?

I specialize in working with men who have a desire to weave their fetish or kink into their long term relationship and who struggle with “vanilla” sex. By creating a safe space to be heard and offering simple yet effective suggestions for bridging the gap between you and your partner you will see an improvement in your sex life.

Older Virgins

You are not alone! I have worked with many older virgins (over 30) who are struggling with anxiety and performance issues. If you are in a new relationship or want to start a relationship, through coaching and somatic awareness practices you can be successful in achieving a satisfying sex life with a partner.

“I have been struggling with my fetish for many, many years and always felt it was never a good time to bring it up to my wife. I have gone to professionals to “scratch the itch” but it was never fully satisfying because, frankly, I want to be experiencing this in my relationship not with a stranger. I finally decided to seek help and reached out to Dr. Anya. Today, I feel a lot more secure with myself and my wife and I have started to slowly explore my fetish. What a relief! I highly recommend breaking the silence and talking to Dr. Anya”. Howard K., Oakland

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Dr. Anya | San Francisco Bay Area Sex & Intimacy Coaching

5.0

K H

16:44 10 May 19

Let me just start by saying that I never thought I’d be seeing a sex therapist. The stigma that surrounds sex therapy is real. I had no idea what I was walking into. I knew something had to happen or my marriage would not survive. Sex wasn’t fun, we felt like it was a chore. We had been married around 20 years and I am in my 40’s and my sex drive was going crazy. I needed an outlet and felt I couldn’t have that with my husband. I thought we weren’t compatible anymore. I was so wrong. My marriage is amazing now because of Dr. Anya. Dr. Anya makes “seeing a sex therapist” something that is not intimidating or stressful. She is well versed in respecting a person or couple’s beliefs and boundaries. She takes a very thorough history and LEARNS you and LEARNS your relationship. Then she starts in on the things that you need help with. I was frustrated by the therapist provided by my insurance company. She didn’t give me tools or knowledge to use to work on my relationship with my husband. Anya has a whole box of tools (literally and figuratively). She gave us homework, she pinpointed what was missing in our relationship. The deficiencies in our sex life turned out to be a symptom of flawed communication. Dr. Anya can teach you about sex, no doubt, but what I never realized was that sex goes hand in hand with trust, communication, and openness. Dr. Anya know this well. She finds a way to “troubleshoot” your relationship, opening up an abundance of possibilities in your sexual relationship with your partner. Dr. Anya was worth every damn penny. She saved my marriage, she allowed me to be a sexual person without guilt or fear. She gave my husband a way to voice his needs and concerns. She is sweet, kind, and incredibly knowledgeable. Don’t waste another day being unhappy. Go make your life amazing. See Dr. Anya, she will teach you about sex, and so much more.read more

Gretchen

07:08 04 Mar 19

We came to see Anya during what felt like a pretty hopeless spot for us. She helped us find a really important balance of unpacking the complexities, finding fun steps and activities to get us unstuck and providing perspective and encouragement. She helped us take something that felt so much in the past for us and unreachable, into a new reality that’s even more in synch with us now and how we’ve grown together. We’ve learned so much about each other and ourselves through this process. I’ve recommended Anya to close friends already. She is extremely knowledgable, always comforting, easy to talk to, light and funny and very sensitive. All things important to me in this process. We’ve enjoyed so much working with her and will look back fondly on this (many many times!) while we build on our experience here. Thank you thank you!read more

Nora McQuaide

08:02 08 Feb 19

Through all of our sessions together, Dr Anya helped my husband and I become closer after we had drifted apart for so long. She helped us find new ways to communicate not only in the bedroom but also out of the bedroom as well during times of disagreement. We learned different methods for understanding each other better. And most importantly, we learned that putting in the work is so worth it. We are happy again and it feels so good. We are so grateful for all the tools Dr Anya has given us to succeed as a happy and sexy couple again. She was so easy to talk to and open up to from the beginning we met her and always had us feeling comfortable about telling her everything. It was like venting to a friend and getting feedback and advice from a caring expert. She is truly amazing and we are ever grateful to have our spark back. Thank you for everything Dr Anya!!read more

lea robinson

05:10 09 Oct 17

Anya is an incredibly gifted, patient and knowledgeable healer and counselor of human sexuality. The ways in which she connects one to the heart and body is exceptional and liberating. Her kindness, openness and willingness to engage in learning while being an expert in her field is refreshing. As a researcher, Anya is current with what's trending and how it applies to her practice and as someone who is committed to the growth and well-being of her clients, she is completely in touch, down to earth and genuine. As a genderqueer identified person, the work I've done with Anya has been enlightening, inspiring and life changing. Thank you, Dr. Anya!read more

Laura Roccia

18:27 26 Sep 17

Anya is a masterful coach and speaker. She had led a workshop where my partner and I had the privilege to attended. She coached our small group in some communication exercises regarding intimacy and creating safe spaces for communication and touch. I felt like I was able to learn from Anya that evening and saw places where I could create more space for intimacy. My partner and I also spoke to her in private sessions a few times again and each time she brought a lot of knowledge and compassion to the table along with tremendous insight. She inspires and conspires to move things where they want to go. She is passionate about relationships and it's nice to feel someone being interested, passionate, open minded and invested about your relationships intimacy success if that makes sense ? Having Anya be a support to my relationship has been invaluable. She has provided tools and created more inspiration, ease, and connection for me around my own sexuality and partnership. Depth, Ease, and Exploration!read more

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