dr anya sex coaching

Hi, I am Anya de Montigny, DHS, CPC. I’m a certified clinical and somatic sexologist specializing in sex & intimacy coaching/consulting.

I grew up in a Hindu-based meditation ashram long before yoga was cool and hip.

While it was a pretty unique childhood learning how to practice yoga, meditate, chant and explore the spiritual dimensions, what was missing from my spiritual education in the ashram were teachings of sexuality and how sex can be sacred and pleasurable.

By traveling the world at a young age, as well as living for a time in India, I learned that many cultures, religions, and societies omit basic sex education and leave people confused about their bodies and how they work. 

Because my mother was a physician, my early education about the body came from a very non-judgmental yet strictly scientific viewpoint. So, with the lack of permission to discuss sexuality in the ashram (as well as a lot of confusing messages), I decided to go off on my own to explore this fascinating topic.

My quest for knowledge brought me to physical research of the human body and I spent many years as a massage therapist and bodyworker which led me to tantra, sexological bodywork, and bondassage (a hybrid of kink & erotic massage).  

In 2011 after almost 2 decades as a bodyworker, I began TeachMeAboutSex where I sought to disseminate accurate, sex-positive information to the mainstream. I taught popular classes in the USA and abroad including classes on sacred sexuality, bondassage and my signature class SquirtGasms (that was a always a fun and well attended class!).

Ultimately, my desire to learn everything there is to know about human sexuality led me to some of the world’s best sexuality schools where I studied and trained for many years.

In 2016 I received my Doctor of Human Sexuality (DHS) degree from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco, CA. This cutting edge school has produced some amazing (and famous) sexologists like Annie Sprinkle, PhD, Gina Ogden, PhD, Dr. Patti Britton, Dr. Chris Donahue and many more. I was extremely fortunate to be one of the last students and interns at IASHS before the school was closed.

After getting my doctorate, I transitioned from hosting my weekly radio show The O Word – Sex Talk Radio and teaching sold-out adult sex education classes to working with clients full time in my San Francisco Bay Area offices (now all online).

Today, I continue to grow my knowledge base by taking ongoing trainings to stay as relevant and current as possible. As a life-long student I am ever fascinated by how the body works and how we can optimize it’s function to live our best lives.

My current passions are studying neuroscience, sexuality, and the mind/body connection. Working with amazing clients, daily exercise, traveling to Vancouver to visit family, making fun organic meals, spending quality time with my partner, son and close friends, reading exciting novels, and engaging in a daily mindfulness meditation practice.

dr anya sex coaching

Qualifications, Certifications and Trainings in Sexology and Coaching:

Doctor of Human Sexuality, DHS – Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, San Francisco, CA

Certified Sex Educator  – San Francisco Sex Information (SFSI)

Certified Somatic Sex Educator – The Somatic Sex Educators Association 

Certified Clinical Sexologist – Dr. Patti Britton 

Sexual Attitude Reassessment and Restructuring – SAR* – Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality *The SAR is a requirement for all sexologists and sex therapists.

Certified Life Coach – Life Purpose Institute

Certified Holistic Health Coach – The World School of Massage & Advanced Healing Arts

Certified Gottman Method Level 1 & 2

Certified Gottman Method 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work

Certified Gottman Method Couples & Addiction Recovery 

Certification in Neuroscience of Female Health & Hormones – Neuroscience Academy

Certification in Neuroscience of Change – Coaches Rising

Certification in The Power of Embodied Transformation – Coaches Rising

Certified Mind/Body Syndrome Practitioner – Dr. Howard Schubiner and Hal Greenham, BSc. – Freedom From Chronic Pain

A Dialogue with Bessel van der Kolk – 4 Week Trauma Course

Somatic Experiencing Beginner Level 1

Certified Restorative Practices & Diversity Educator – CircleUp Education 

Master Certified Massage Therapist* – World School of Massage & Holistic Healing Arts

Certified Bondassage Practitioner & Trainer* – Bondassage University

Certified Sexological Bodyworker* – Somatic Sex Educator Association 

*I no longer practice hands-on modalities. I now teach these techniques to individuals and couples to advance their sexological knowledge.


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