Have you ever been at a complete loss when your partner asks, “what do you like in bed”?
Like many people you may draw a blank when asked this question. The reason why is that being put on the spot about one’s likes and dislikes can be difficult. It’s a top down question. There is an expectation that the mind somehow knows what the body likes. And this can be especially difficult to answer when it comes to sex.
A better technique is to try a few things and let the body inform the mind – a bottom up approach. When you experience pleasure in the body the mind then has a reference point.
I explain this technique a little more in the video below.
Reach out if you have any questions.
Best,
Dr. Anya
