Transform Your Relationship with your Sexuality!

Has Your Relationship been Struggling with:

Lack of Desire, Arousal or Orgasm?

Mismatched Libidos?

Delayed or Early Ejaculation?

Unexpressed Kinks or Fetishes?

Pelvic Floor Pain?

Disconnection from your Body?

Boring Sex?

Inability to Communicate Your Desires?

What Sex Education & Coaching Can Do For You: 

Renew the passion in your relationship.

Bring awareness to your body and it’s pleasure zones.

Learn techniques to maximize pleasure in your partner’s body.

Gain a deeper understanding of anatomy/physiology and how arousal works.

Debunk societal myths of what’s “normal” when it comes to sex and intimacy.

Learn mindfulness techniques to get you out of your head and into your body for more fulfilling sex.

Remove blocks and barriers to have fulfilling orgasms.

Discover your own authentic sexual expression.

Getting Started

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Couples Sex Education & Coaching
Individuals Sex Education & Coaching

Individuals Sex Education & Coaching

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Bodywork Coaching for Couples
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Coaching vs Therapy

Is there a difference? What is best for you?
FAQs

FAQ's

Answers to commonly asked questions.

Short-term, Results Oriented Sex & Intimacy Coaching. Proven Results.

Dr. Anya's Approach

What folks are saying

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Kate, SF - First Orgasm!

Women

I will forever be grateful to have worked with Dr. Anya. Before being coached by her, I had never been able to reach orgasm and had trouble with arousal. With the guidance and expertise she provided, I was able to reach orgasm after about 6 sessions. Anya is knowledgeable, understanding, and very easy to talk to. She was always available to answer my questions and concerns, and always put herself in my shoes in order to understand better how to help me with my issues. After a month of my first orgasm, I was already having multiple orgasms. This has dramatically changed my sex life and drive, and consequently, my relationship. I could not recommend Anya’s services more. Thank you!

Andrew & Heather, Marin - Relationship Improvement

Andrew & Heather, Marin - Relationship Improvement

Online Couples

We are a couple who have been together for six years and have been having intimacy issues. We sought out Dr. Anya to help guide us through this rough patch. Anya's warmth and openness made the experience all the more easy. My wife is a little uncomfortable discussing some of these issues, just like many people but in Anya, she found someone in whom she could confide. We had all of our meetings through online video chat, which I was at first skeptical of, but our living situation did not allow for us to meet in person. In the end I found the video chat to be as effective if not more so than meeting in person. We highly recommend Dr. Anya to anybody who is seeking to improve their all around relationship with their partner.

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S & J, New York - Regaining Intimacy

Online Couples

Anya was instrumental in helping my wife and I overcome a near 10 year impasse in our relationship. Not only did she provide an invaluable toolset for regaining the intimacy that seemed all but lost between us, Anya's open, caring approach, warm personality, and keen understanding of the underlying issues we faced created an environment that allowed for quick progress to occur. It was clear early on that she took a genuine interest in both our individual well being and in the state of our marriage. In all honesty, I did not expect such an impact from working remotely, but our Skype sessions were a sanctuary that allowed us to safely express ourselves and explore effective paths toward mutual growth. We are very happy to have worked with her, and feel empowered knowing that she is available if we ever find the need to talk with her again. We've seen relationship counselors and therapists, both together and individually, prior to Anya. We can say with the utmost confidence that Anya was, by far, our best resource. We both recommend her highly to any couples who have experienced intimacy challenges stemming from mis-matched desires, lack of communication, or other seeming incompatibilities that can create an apparent stalemate in which moving forward appears truly impossible. We are truly grateful for Anya and her help in seeing that, with the right guidance and effort, the walls we built between us were obstacles that could certainly be traversed!

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Kassiah Robles, Oakland - Fun!

Couples

Dr. Anya is full of love, acceptance and wisdom for her clients. She helped my husband and I think about our sexual relationship differently which opened new doors for us to explore. She has simple tools that make sexuality easy, fun and free. After 12 years together, Dr. Anya helped us reinvigorate and reprioritize sensual connection in our marriage. I would recommend Dr. Anya to anyone who seeks a safe, loving place to explore sexuality in a new way.

Clark and Callie, Oakland - Non-Monogamy & Kink

Clark and Callie, Oakland - Non-Monogamy & Kink

Couples

My fiancé and I were having sex issues. We have a phenomenal relationship all around, except for some serious tension and arguments that we’ve had regarding sex. Seeing Dr. Anya has helped us communicate better both in and out of her office and to understand each others’ perspectives. She was a delight and had insightful, interesting and even fun homework assignments for us. Before meeting with Dr. Anya our non-monogamous activities were put on hold. After a couple of months of seeing her we were able to discuss our needs, formulate boundaries and feel more comfortable with our kinky endeavors. We may very well end up seeing Dr. Anya again for a tune-up here and there, but we were extremely satisfied with the results from our meetings.

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Catherine and Steven, Oakland - New Parents

Couples

Anya is a miracle worker! My husband and I have been together 14 years, work full time, and have two kids under the age of 2. Needless to say, our intimate relationship has taken a backseat to more pressing responsibilities. Well, we finally got tired of being just partners and co-parents for the past few years and decided we wanted to be a couple again, in every sense of the word. We tried, but couldn't do it alone so we reached out to Anya. 3 sessions in and our love life has done a complete 180. Anya really changed the way we perceived and approached intimacy. It's as if we're college students again. We both have HUGE crushes on each other and I don't see us running out of steam anytime soon. Anya's wisdom is pure gold and seeking her counsel was one of the best things we've ever done for our relationship. Thanks, Anya! If we could, we'd give you more stars!

Stephanie, Oakland - First Orgasm!

Stephanie, Oakland - First Orgasm!

Women

I couldn't have been more pleased with my experience with Anya. To start she is respectful, kind, compassionate, knowledgeable, and encouraging! I came to her hoping to make progress towards experiencing an orgasm. She gave me specific home exercises to do that, when practiced, produced real, measurable results. I successfully achieved my goal within about 4/5 sessions and now get to set new and exciting goals for myself! I absolutely could not recommend her more. She is worth every penny and minute spent and has a genuine interest in helping to accomplish goals and tools to make that happen! Thank you, Anya, you have truly changed my life!

Makana, Oakland - Increased sex drive

Makana, Oakland - Increased sex drive

Men

Anya is a healer. Through counseling and education, Anya helped me find my libido. I was experiencing some suffering due to the ending of a relationship. Anya was able to create a loving container that helped me feel safe and supported as we explored what was at the root of my lack of sex drive. She taught me practical ways to create safety for myself when in sexual situations with my partners. She also helped me to become more embodied which has led to more joy in my romantic life. Anya is a knowledgeable counselor with a tremendous amount of wisdom to bestow. I recommend her highly!

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Travis and Maricela, Fairfax - Healthier sex life

Couples

Anya is simply fantastic and has helped us tremendously.  She helped us with an issue that we couldn’t seem to fix in our relationship.  We went to her for about 3 or 4 months until the problem was solved.  If you are contemplating about going that probably means you should talk to your partner and give her a call. Anya is really nice and knows the ins and outs of relationships and how to improve on it to enjoy a healthier and better sex life.  I would highly recommend her and would work with her again in an instant.

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Emma and Mark, Kensington - Greater Intimacy

Couples

Working with Anya was an amazing experience. My husband and I both felt that our sessions with Anya brought us much closer and helped us in moving past old energetic blocks between us. To this day, a year later, we enjoy a far greater intimacy and trust, and a much better sex life. Anya was gentle and encouraging while firmly helping us see the ways that we could let go of old baggage and move into the present. As a result, we are ever grateful to her

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Tara, Berkeley - Healing after Divorce

Women

I feel very privileged to be able to work with Anya de Montigny. Coming out of an abusive marriage, there were many areas of my sexuality that I felt were damaged and needed care and healing. Though our work focuses on sexuality, she is able to hold ALL of my psychological parts and has helped me understand how my life experiences influence my sexuality and my sexual response. She is a great listener as well as a great communicator and knows when to hold space for me and when to bring in her wisdom. The work we do together involves only talking, but she also gives me tons of practical advice and hands-on exercises customized to my needs which have helped open things up for me in a big way. Can't recommend Anya highly enough. She truly loves her work and is on a mission to help. She's awesome.

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Jules & Ani, Oakland - New Understanding

Queer Couple

My partner and I were having intimacy issues after 6 years of being together. Anya was very helpful in helping us work through some of what turned out to be our deep seeded core issues affecting our love and physical relationship. The fact that Anya has both the personal experience as well as the intellectual knowledge about sex love and relationships helped my partner and I trust her which helped us really go deep in our exploration. We came out of that series of sessions with a new understanding of both our selves as well as each other. This certainly gives us the hope that we can keep working and continuing to grow and build as a couple. Thanks Anya!!!

Stephen, Oakland - Mutually Beneficial

Stephen, Oakland - Mutually Beneficial

Couple


I contacted Anya when my wife and I were having a very difficult time with intimacy. Anya was helpful from our very first meeting with her. She has an ability to understand our problems and offer help in a constructive, fun and positive way.
Her work with us as a couple was blameless and guilt free and helped us get back on a path to a mutually beneficial sexual relationship.
I feel lucky to have benefited from her extensive experience as a sex therapist. If you are thinking about seeking help do not hesitate to call Anya you will find it a positive experience.

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Heather, Burbank

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Anya is a knowledgeable, thorough and dynamic sex educator. I have attended several of her workshops, with Squirtgasms being my favorite!
Truly sex positive with extensive knowledge and experience in anatomy and physiology, sexual issues and dysfunctions, and sexual empowerment.

Anya is a true healer with a deep understanding of esoteric as well as traditional practices. I look forward to experiencing more growth through her teachings!

Mike, Oakland - Feeling supported

Mike, Oakland - Feeling supported

Men

Anya is a fabulous sex therapist who is knowledgeable, patient, very perceptive, and extremely passionate about what she does. You'd be very hard pressed to find better. I cannot recommend her highly enough.

I have experience in both sexual assault crisis counseling and sex education, so I have some understanding of what this kind of therapy should look like, as well as a lot of information about sex and sexual topics in general. Much like how doctors can be some of the worst patients, it can be difficult for a therapist to treat someone who knows how therapy typically works. But, even still, I don't think I was any real challenge for her. She beautifully marries a keen sense of perception with an assertiveness that has pushed me to face head on the challenges I wanted to work on, as well as other issues I was unaware of. Her confidence is inspiring, her style is compassionate and welcoming, and she engages fully and unabashedly. All of this is further enhanced by her creative assignments, which are both fun and enlightening. I think she has an amazing ability to pick up on what I need and tailors her activities to best highlight and explore sensitive and important areas. And throughout this all, she is gentle and nonjudgmental in how she engages, which in it of itself is a rare and beautiful thing. Her presence and wonderful approach has made me feel open and safe with her. I feel supported in exploring the areas of discomfort I am looking to address, and she is careful to set the pace slow enough to ensure that I don't feel overexposed or traumatized. Great therapists are rare enough, great therapists who are willing to explore sensitive issues like sex, relationships, intimacy, and sexual trauma are rarer still. It isn't enough to say that Anya is an amazing therapist, she is the kind of therapist I would want to be.

For anyone interested in exploring sex, sexuality, intimacy, or relationships, look Anya up. You will not regret it.

Rikki, Oakland - 2 times a month to 2 times a week!

Rikki, Oakland - 2 times a month to 2 times a week!

Gay Couple

As a Bisexual man in a 9 year Gay relationship, she handled our situation with a perfect amount of encouragement and completely understanding. We went from 2 or 3 times a month having sex to 2 or 3 times weekly. She brought adventure, excitement, and attentiveness to our sex. I recommend Anya for anyone that is looking to understand love, oneself, and adventuring in your sexlife.

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Leah, Oakland - Guided Meditation & HomePlay

Women


I don't know which good thing to start with! Anya has been an excellent therapist, better than anyone else I've seen. Instead of just telling you that you should meditate, she leads a guided meditation. Instead of vaguely suggesting you work on a broad concept, she gives you structured "homeplay" assignments that are specific enough to get started on but open up whole worlds of thought. When she takes notes, she reads selections from them back to you and makes you feel heard, not clinically observed. Sometimes, she'll mention something in passing, like a particular candle or a novel she likes, and I find myself going out and buying it because I intuitively trust her judgement so much. She's also great about recommending the work of other professionals who she respects, which just shows how knowledgeable about and committed to this work she is, and makes me feel like I'm in good hands. I could go on and on. :)

Shannon, Los Angeles - Liberating Sexuality

Shannon, Los Angeles - Liberating Sexuality

Women


Anya is sexual shaman. She is patient, kind, and understanding of individual barriers with sex and intimacy. Anya has guided me towards an autonomous, consenting, and liberating sexuality and I'll be forever grateful that the Universe put her in my path. She's gifted with all relationship dynamics, but has a special knack for queer relationships. And nothing is taboo with Anya! I can't recommend her enough!

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