Welcome, Now is the time to Liberate Your Sexuality!
I work with individuals and couples who are seeking compassion on their journey towards a fully-expressed sex life. Many of my clients find that my style is warm, nurturing and supportive and have reported positive transformation in their lives in a short amount of time. If you are struggling with aspects of your sexuality or sexual health you have come to the right place.
Sex is an area we often turn away from but may find the most challenging. Traditional therapy can help to shine the light on sexuality issues, however, it takes working with a sexuality specialist to shift deeply held patterns around sex. I specialize in sexuality issues because they are often left behind.
I offer a free phone consultation as this process requires that we are a good fit for working together and that you feel safe and seen in my company.
I work with individuals and couples along the sexual and gender spectrums including LGBTQ. I teach Affirmative Consent & Boundaries classes on college campuses as well as exciting and informative adult sexuality education classes to the public.
Women’s Sexuality, Men’s Sexuality, Couple’s Sexuality and Intimacy, TransGender Sexuality, Sex Education, Somatic Awareness, Sexual Trauma Awareness and Sensitivity, Healthy Communication, Nutrition and Healthy Body Image, Alternative Love/LifeStyles, Diversity and Interracial Relationships, LGBTQ
PAST SEX ED CLASSES TAUGHT:
UC Berkeley, CA, Berkeley High School, CA, Hult Business School, CA, California College of the Arts, CA, Mills College, Oakland, CA, Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium, London, England, SF Armory/Kink.com, San Francisco, CA, The Pleasure Chest, Los Angeles, CA, Pure Pleasures, Santa Cruz, CA, Stockroom, Los Angeles, CA, Good Vibrations, San Francisco, CA, The Sunrise Center, Corte Madera, CA, Essence, San Francisco, CA, Vagina Monologues & Workshops, Los Angeles, CA, FEM Talks, Oakland, CA, Feelmore510, Oakland, CA, Center for Sex & Culture, San Francisco, CA, The Looking Glass, Oakland, CA, Black Thorn, Oakland, CA
Private Workshops in the San Francisco Bay Area, New York & London
Have the flames died down in your relationship?
Are you struggling to connect, communicate and find intimacy again?
Does one of you desire sex more than the other?
Are you struggling with discomfort during sex?
Are body image issues preventing you from relaxing and enjoying sex?
Do you wish you could experience a better or full body orgasm?
Are you grappling with erectile dysfunction or early ejaculation?
Do you only have orgasms or erections with porn us?
Are you frustrated with body image or performance anxiety?
Do you need a safe space to discuss issues related to gender identity, gender identity expression, and your sexuality?
Are there issues specifically related to your body image that you find hard to discuss with health care providers?
Are you interested in hosting a party or class?
Does your event need something spicy to keep it interesting for your guests?
Does the thought of learning about sexuality in a group format sound fun?
“Anya is a healer. Through counseling and education, Anya helped me find my libido. I was experiencing some suffering due to the ending of a relationship. Anya was able to create a loving container that helped me feel safe and supported as we explored what was at the root of my lack of sex drive. She taught me practical ways to create safety for myself when in sexual situations with my partners. She also helped me to become more embodied which has led to more joy in my romantic life. Anya is a knowledgeable counselor with a tremendous amount of wisdom to bestow. I recommend her highly”! – Makana
“Anya is a miracle worker! My husband and I have been together 14 years, work full time, and have two kids under the age of 2. Needless to say, our intimate relationship has taken a backseat to more pressing responsibilities. Well, we finally got tired of being just partners and co-parents for the past few years and decided we wanted to be a couple again, in every sense of the word. We tried, but couldn’t do it alone so we reached out to Anya. 3 sessions in and our love life has done a complete 180. Anya really changed the way we perceived and approached intimacy. It’s as if we’re college students again. We both have HUGE crushes on each other and I don’t see us running out of steam anytime soon. Anya’s wisdom is pure gold and seeking her counsel was one of the best things we’ve ever done for our relationship. Thanks, Anya! If we could, we’d give you more stars!” – Catherine Powell, Alameda
“Anya is simply fantastic and has helped us tremendously. She helped us with an issue that we couldn’t seem to fix in our relationship. We went to her for about 3 or 4 months until the problem was solved. If you are contemplating about going that probably means you should talk to your partner and give her a call. Anya is really nice and knows the ins and outs of relationships and how to improve on it to enjoy a healthier and better sex life. I would highly recommend her and would work with her again in an instant.” – Travis & Maricela
“Working with Anya was an amazing experience. My husband and I both felt that our sessions with Anya brought us much closer and helped us in moving past old energetic blocks between us. To this day, a year later, we enjoy a far greater intimacy and trust, and a much better sex life. Anya was gentle and encouraging while firmly helping us see the ways that we could let go of old baggage and move into the present. As a result, we are ever grateful to her”. – Emma & Mark
One of my favorite interviews. I’ve been interviewed by many people because of my involvement with the movie The Sessions, my work as a Surrogate Partner Therapist, and my book. One of my favorite interviews was when I spent 2 hours with Anya de Montigny on her radio show The O Word. She is one of the very best interviewers I’ve encountered. Anyone considering being interviewed by her should know they’re in for a wonderful experience! -Cheryl Cohen- Greene, DHS
Online tutorials just didn’t cut it. Anya approached the subject with a really impressive academic rigor, while simultaneously making sure the context was accessible. She also encouraged questions, so I really got to geek out on some super interesting biological stuff. She maintains a light-heartedness and warmth through the class, which really helps put shy people like me at ease in a group setting. The live demo was invaluable, and the fact that I actually got to practice on a real person really cemented the information we were given at the beginning of the class. I am looking forward to someday soon having a private session with her and my partner! – Melanie F.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is Clinical Sexology?
A clinical sexologist is a sexologist who offers sex counseling, coaching, and education to assist people towards understanding and accepting themselves as sexual beings and to encourage them towards their sexual goals.
What is Adult Sex Education?
For many years, I have taught adult sexuality education classes and workshops. I have also given lectures, presentations, and workshops for college-level students. What I see time and again is that people have grown up without basic knowledge of human sexuality.
What is your approach to sexuality counseling?
My work as a Sex Educator & Clinical Sexologist is a specialty practice that deals with issues specifically around sexuality from a sex-positive, non-judgmental and shame-free paradigm of healing.
Do you work with LGBTQAIQ folks?
Yes! I work with everybody and have extensive knowledge and training with the LGBTQ population. If you are an individual or a couple you will find that I hold a safe container for discussing issues that may be specifically relevant to your gender identity and expression and sexual preference. If you identify as questioning or asexual you will find that I hold a non-judgemental space to explore those themes and questions in your life.
Can I do individual work if I am in a relationship?
Yes, I often see individuals who are in a relationship and who choose to first work on their own issues related to sexuality and intimacy before doing couples work.
Is this hands-on therapy or coaching?
I do not offer hands-on work. Most of the work we do together involves talking, setting goals and suggestions of HomePlay activities. If you are interested in working with someone who is a hands-on practitioner, I suggest you visit the Sexological Bodywork & Certified Sex Surrogate databases for a practitioner near you.
Do you take insurance?
I do not accept insurance at this time. As a sexuality specialist, my work is outside the scope of insurance carriers. Hopefully, one day this will change.
I am ready for sex education & consulting. How do I get started?
I’m glad you asked! I accept new clients who are ready and willing to do the work and who are a good match for working with me and my approach to sexual healing and empowerment. After an initial phone consultation, and if we are a match for working together, we will meet in person for a minimum of 5 sessions.
I am not ready for sessions right now. Do you have any free resources?
Yes! I highly recommend the San Francisco Sex Information (SFSI) hotline for accurate, shame-free and confidential answers to your questions around sexuality.
Our hours are (US/Pacific time)
Not open holidays or holiday weekends.