Have the flames died down in your relationship?
For some couples, the good news is that there is a strong, solid foundation of friendship, shared history, the ability to work well together as a team and a deep sense of connection – however, after many years of being together the sex life you share may have taken the back burner to focus on other concerns.
Have you stopped communicating with each other?
Sometimes, in order to play safe, not hurt each other’s feelings, or to avoid conflict couples can find themselves shutting down communication and turning away from each other making sexual frustrations even harder.
Do one of you desire more sex than the other?
Many relationships include one person having a higher sex drive than the other. Or, both people having frustrated sex drives.
Have there been past hurts that have not been healed between you?
In our modern world, we can encounter tremendous stressors which can lead to painful and harmful issues between couples.
“Working with Anya was an amazing experience. My husband and I both felt that our sessions with Anya brought us much closer and helped us in moving past old energetic blocks between us. To this day, a year later, we enjoy a far greater intimacy and trust, and a much better sex life. Anya was gentle and encouraging while firmly helping us see the ways that we could let go of old baggage and move into the present. As a result, we are ever grateful to her.” – Emma and Mark
We all go through ups and downs in our intimate and sexual relationships and sometimes it feels like there is no end in sight when conflicts or frustrations arise. The good news is that as soon as you commit to working on your relationship and reach out for help the transformation starts to happen.
Sex Education and Coaching takes the approach of setting specific goals and working towards them together. We start with what is going on right now and move towards creating the kind of healthy sexual and intimate relationship you both desire.
My clients generally start to notice a change in their dynamic by the first session.
- Healthy and conscious communication.
- Parent Burn-Out and how to get your sex life back.
- When Early Ejaculation & Erectile “Dysfunction” affects the relationship.
- When female pelvic pain affects the relationship.
- How to have what you want and please your partner too.
- Sexual anatomy, sexual response systems and the idea of Knowledge = Pleasure.
- Somatic Awareness techniques to increase intimacy and sensation.
- De-bunking myths of what’s “normal”.
- Exploring Fantasies, Kink, and Role-Play for enhanced pleasure.
- Sex Toys and Tips.
- Alternative Life/Love-Styles.
- LGBTQ specific issues/concerns.
Using a combination of:
Often, the lack of understanding between a couple comes from a lack of advanced sex education. We may have taken a semester or two of sex ed classes in our youth but even those failed to cover the important things you need to know about yourself and your partner. We will discuss all manner of sexuality including how human sexuality functions in various genders, sexual preferences, and sexual response systems.
The Gottman Method
I am trained in the Gottman Method Level 1 & 2. I am very passionate about this method as it has proven results with couples to create long-lasting, loving and intimate relationships that withstand the tests of time.
Every couple is different and every couple will receive a custom-crafted curriculum just for them. This can include various HomePlay exercises meant to address your individual needs and concerns and the goals you set for your relationship.
HomePlay can include:
- Suggestions of activities to build intimacy and desire
- Articles to read
- Date nights
- Communication Agreements
- Gottman Method skills to use at home
After a few sessions, it may be a great idea to learn some hands-on skills with each other. This can include: how to ask for touch, how to give touch, various techniques to improve your sensual connection and so on. I teach and facilitate touch between couples but do not enter into the hands-on work myself. This allows for a container of trust between myself and clients.
“Dr. Anya is phenomenal! We came to her looking to deepen our connection on many levels. My husband and I have been together for 18+ years. We constantly look for ways to evolve as a couple and as an individual. We empower and seek to understand creative yet healthy ways to continuously enrich each other.
From the moment we started working with Dr. Anya over a year ago, we immediately trusted her guidance and was challenged to go beyond the realm of new possibilities. I was also challenged to look within myself to see the potential being that I am”. – S.R.