As a sexuality specialist, I offer sex education, coaching, and consultation for individuals and couples.
I am not a psychotherapist, rather I am a clinical and somatic sexologist – a highly trained specialist who offers a short-term, goal-oriented approach to sexual healing and empowerment.
I offer years of expertise and study in human sexuality and partner with clients in a thought-provoking, behavior changing process to inspire them towards their potential.
Many of my clients have had psychotherapy and are still seeking solutions and strategies to help them transform their sex lives.
I believe that not only is it important to have a safe space to talk about sex and intimacy issues, you also need tools and techniques to help change deeply held patterns and beliefs around sex. This is where coaching comes in. Coaching is a collaboration between myself and the client that uses a forward focused and solution oriented approach to health and wellness.
With custom crafted curriculum, books and videos, the HomePay exercises that are offered in between sessions create a container for true transformation to happen in a relatively short period of time.
While I see myself as a sex educator and coach many people still refer to me as a sex therapist.
Therapy can be defined as a means or method through which a problem is resolved (think hypnotherapist, massage therapist, etc.) California currently does not have laws around the term “sex therapist” and it can be used by people practicing a variety of sex education and coaching modalities. California, however, does have laws around using the term psychotherapist which is reserved for those with a MFT, LCSW, PsyD or PhD and who are licensed to work as a psychotherapist to assist people in mental health challenges.
Whether you call me a sex therapist, sex coach or sex educator I think it’s important that you understand the difference between sex coaching and psychotherapy and make your decision to reach out to me accordingly.
Whether you seek out coaching or psychotherapy the reason why you are desiring transformation is the same.
You have been experiencing pain and that’s why you are seeking a professional’s help. It’s the route that you take towards that destination that may be different. For many people who have tried psychotherapy and have not seen a shift in their sex and intimacy patterns coaching is a modality that can work wonders because of its goal oriented and forward focused approach.
Here is a tool to help guide you in an understanding of some of the differences between coaching and psychotherapy.
|Clients are viewed as naturally creative, resourceful and whole.||May view clients from a medical or pathology model.|
|Does not diagnose or treat.||Diagnoses and treats.|
|Trained to work with functioning clients.||Trained to work with major mental illness.|
|Works with clients that are able to form an alliance and have common goals.||Works with clients with entrenched problems.|
|Collaborative approach.||Therapist is the “expert.”|
|Coach and clients on a peer basis.||Hierarchical difference between therapist and clients.|
|Treatment designed by coach and client together.||Treatment plan largely designed by therapist.|
|Focus on evolving and manifesting potential.||Focus on healing and understanding.|
|Emphasis on present and future.||Emphasis on past and present.|
|Action and being oriented.||Insight oriented.|
|Solution oriented.||Problem oriented.|
|Explore actions and behaviors that manifest high self-esteem.||Explore genesis of behaviors that create low self-esteem.|
|Regard and coach negative self-beliefs as temporary obstacles.||Analyze and treat origins and historical roots of negative self-beliefs.|
|Coach and client ask: “What’s next/what now?”||Therapist and client ask: “Why and from where?”|
|Works mainly with external issues.||Works mainly with internal issues.|
|Discourages transference as inappropriate.||Encourages transference as a therapy tool.|
|Accountability and “homework” between sessions held as important.||Accountability less commonly expected.|
|Contact between sessions for accountability and “wins” expected.||Contact between sessions for crisis and difficulties only.|
|Uses coaching skills.||Uses therapy techniques.|