A Woman’s Art of Receiving Compliments

The Art of Receiving is a wonderful practice that can help to liberate a woman’s sense of self and boost her self-esteem. As women, we often hear compliments and let them fly over our heads, in one ear and out the other or simply nod and say, “uh huh thanks”. We may have been taught that our purpose in life is to give to others, make others our priority and take our identity from the happiness Read more…

5 ways to bio hack to a better sex life

5 Bio-Hacks to Better Your Sex Life

First of all, what the heck is a bio-hack? A bio-hack is using systems to improve the quality of your life and freedom in your body and mind.  These systems can range from diet to exercise to positive affirmations – basically anything beneficial that changes your body chemistry from a state of dis-ease and discomfort to a state of health. I am an avid bio-hacker and love having control over the quality of my life! Read more…

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Low Libido Getting you Down?

I have learned from working with hundreds of people that low libido is the bodies natural response to stressors that are going on with the individual or in the relationship. We don’t want to do something that causes pain, displeasure, can be boring, feels unsafe, causes frustration, is mechanical or takes a lot of effort. We are creatures who desire pleasure and comfort. We turn towards activities that make us feel better not worse. If Read more…

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Partner Doesn’t Orgasm? 7 Ways Not To Take It Personally!

You, like many other people, could be taking it personally when your partner doesn’t come to orgasm during love-making. Are you worried that you’ve done something wrong? Do you wonder if you aren’t pleasing them at all?  Have these frustrations contributed to a fight or a tense moment which has led to a missed opportunity for sexual connection? Orgasm can be a very elusive for many people.  I see all genders in my practice who report Read more…

Sex vs. Sleep? 7 Useful Tips to Have it All!

Are you and your partner in a struggle between, “I just want to have sex” and, “I just want to sleep”? Maybe you have small kids, run a household while maintaining a full-time job, have financial obligations that are mounting and are attempting to spend time together as a couple enjoying what you worked so hard to create! I hear these two phrases a lot in my practice.  There can be one person in the relationship Read more…

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Get out of your head and into your body! (If you want to have good sex)

Most of my clients are head types. They spend most of their days on the computer, in offices and in and out of meetings. The “head type” personality dominates our culture and in fact, is looked at as an asset.  You may do better at school, excel in the corporate world, make more money and gain prestige in a mind dominated culture. But, living from the mental sphere is not all it’s cracked up to Read more…

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Erotic Massage Can Fix your Tired, Boring Sex Life

Erotic Massage can turn around the most tired and boring sex lives! Many of the couples I work with have been together for a long time and have full-time jobs, kids, long commutes and modern-day stressors. They report being too tired to have anything but boring sex.  When I say tired I mean not inspired, not passionate, not hot, not sexy.  I refer to the “squeeze one out” kind of sex that happens in bed Read more…

Vital Sex Life includes Adventure and Excitement

Fostering a Mind/Body connection for a vital sex life

In order to have a vital, satisfying sex life we need to have a healthy mind-body connection. What does that mean? What we put into our bodies, the health of our relationships, and how we view ourselves in relation to the world all need to be taken into consideration. Sometimes, sexual symptoms emerge that are uncomfortable, painful or dissatisfying and we need to begin the process of unpacking what is underlying those symptoms. Ask yourself: Read more…

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It’s Not Erectile Dysfunction

Is erectile dysfunction getting you down? It doesn’t have to! I want to debunk another myth that our culture likes to throw around.  The myth that men must be rock hard and stay that way whenever they get aroused.  I find that this myth has done a lot of damage to male sexuality and has caused a culture of shame, secrecy, lies, and fear much like the one that has been created around female sexuality. Read more…

Just say NO to Creeps, set those boundaries girl!

  As a Sex Educator, I talk a lot about setting boundaries, knowing what our true desires are and how to get them. Recently, a person whom I considered a colleague crossed a boundary with me that I have spent some time grappling with. It started with a FaceBook message that he had heard of my work through a mutual friend and wanted to talk to me about collaborating on a project.  We spoke on Read more…

Masturbation, How & Why You Should Do It!

Guest Editorial courtesy of Adam & Eve Adult Toys *thanks for your contribution!* When it comes to loving ourselves, we should do it inside and out. That means loving the way you look, the way you think, and the way you approach life. But it also means truly loving yourself in the sexual realm as well. Diving into a little self-exploration is important to your well-being, your happiness, confidence and overall sexual health. And even more Read more…

Breathe and Open Up to Pleasure..

I can’t help but feel extraordinarily grateful for choosing such a wonderful profession.  What could be better than helping people open up to greater and greater states of pleasure and fulfillment in their bodies? With the craziness of our modern day society, the rushing around and accomplishing so much, lists and more lists, traffic, cars, coffee, kids…we are a culture separated from the wisdom of our bodies.  In fact, do we ever really give our selves Read more…

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Organic vs. Psychogenic Erectile Dysfunction

These are the common descriptions of ED and if you want another way to think about ED please see my blog post: It’s NOT Erectile Dysfunction. It is important to note that psychogenic erectile dysfunction should be ruled out first before adopting a “label” of erectile dysfunction. Organic Erectile Dysfunction, also known as Organic Impotence, refers to the inability to obtain an erection firm enough for vaginal penetration, or the inability to sustain the erection until Read more…

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Custom Sexy Couple’s Kit!

Who isn’t stressed in this modern world? We all take on a lot of responsibilities and it’s no wonder sometimes our sex lives take a back burner when the mounting world of “adulting” comes first! With so many people to care for and so many ways in which we put work and home life first it can get daunting to think about what we NEED to feel sexy and flirtatious with our lover. That’s why Read more…

FemDom Universe – Discover Your Sexy Female Dominant Self

Are you a little intimidated by your lover’s request that you take the reins and show them who’s boss? Do you want to access your inner Female Dominant but don’t know how? Are you excited about the possibility of being in control in the bedroom but need some tips and techniques to get started? Then this class is for you! Dr. Anya works with a lot of people who are excited about the world of Read more…