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5 ways to cultivate resilience during the pandemic. Stay relaxed to maintain a healthy sex life.

Everything in our lives impacts our sexuality. It is not possible to separate body parts and treat one body part without thinking of the others. Genitals do not just function on their own! There is a mind-body connection that is imperative to consider when we discuss issues related to sexual function. High levels of stress hormones can diminish the body’s ability to become aroused. And, the pandemic is creating stress for many people. So, how Read more…

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Put down your smart phone, have better sex!

Is your smart phone ruining your sex life? Instant gratification is at our fingertips in the form of news, weather, porn, facebook and instagram, emails, texting and phone calls. We can probably all agree, we are a society obsessed and frankly, addicted, to our smart phones. Dopamine from smart phones.  Dopamine is the neurotransmitter that gives us the feel good, “I want more” feeling when we engage in behaviors that hook into our reward center Read more…

Importance of Health, Healthy Relationships & Intimacy during Covid-19

This is from my Newsletter on 4/19/20. If you would like to subscribe for more blog posts, tips, updates on classes and workshops please go to: Sign Up for Newsletters from Dr. Anya Many of us are working from home and sheltered in place, others are on the front lines caring for people who are sick, many are essential workers in stores and restaurants, and a lot of folks are delivering food, groceries and essential items. And, of Read more…

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What about Sex & COVID-19? Stay healthy and increase intimacy in this challenging time.

Sex and COVID-19 During this time of intense change and challenge we need to look at our entire lives to see where we can add safety practices. Sex is an area of our lives that is high on this list. While sex is amazing, powerful and may boost the immune system we must also take the COVID-19 virus seriously and protect ourselves and others. Dating and Sex  Unfortunately, this is not the time to be Read more…

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I am LOVING this Vibrator! Amy by SVAKOM. *video review*

Vibrator Review *video* Hey everybody! Here’s my review of Amy by SVAKOM. I have loved using this vibrator – it’s quiet, discreet and effective! It is also re-chargeable with a USB port that comes included and it has a few different options of vibration to suite everyone’s needs. It can be used solo or with a partner and is super light weight so it won’t tire your arm, wrist or hand (important if you’ve had Read more…

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Getting Sexy Without Alcohol – Try these tips!

Alcohol as sexual lubricant  Sex and alcohol often go hand in hand like good bread and creamy butter.  It’s hard to imagine one without the other.  For many people alcohol acts as an aphrodisiac, a mental and physical lubricant that can take you from the blahs to the oh yeahs in a couple of drinks.  And no wonder, alcohol releases GABA and dopamine, neurotransmitters that decrease tension and anxiety and increase feelings of pleasure.  A Read more…

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Get out of your head and into your body! (If you want to have good sex)

Are you a head type? The majority of my clients are head types, also known as type A personality. They spend most of their days on the computer, in offices and in and out of meetings. The head type personality dominates our culture and in fact, is looked at as an asset.  You may do better at school, excel in the corporate world, make more money and gain prestige in a mind dominated culture. But, Read more…

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Partner Doesn’t Orgasm? 7 Ways Not To Take It Personally!

Don’t take it personally. Trust me, I understand. It can be frustrating when you are in the throws of orgasmic bliss and your partner just isn’t there with you. I’ve been there myself and I know it can be hard not to take it personally. But, as soon as I learned about sex and how everyone is different I took a deep sigh of relief because honestly, it’s not worth it to take it personally. Read more…

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Hey, Maybe It’s Not Erectile Dysfunction!

Is the label of erectile dysfunction getting you down? It doesn’t have to! I want to debunk another myth that our culture likes to throw around.  The myth that men must be rock hard and stay that way whenever they get aroused.  I find that this myth has done a lot of damage to male sexuality and has caused a culture of shame, secrecy, lies, and fear much like the one that has been created Read more…

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Mindful Masturbation – 15 Steps to Greater Pleasure

“Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way; on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgementally” John Kabatt-Zinn Goal Oriented Masturbation In my practice I see many people who have a goal oriented approach to sex.  This approach shows up in the way they approach sex with their partners as well as with themselves through masturbation.  Often, people use the visual aid of porn or the mental stimulation of fantasy along with masturbation to achieve Read more…

5 Steps to Female Ejaculation!

5 Steps to Female Ejaculation In my many years of teaching female ejaculation workshops I have found that there are a few vital components in making this mysterious, elusive and ultimately pleasurable part of female sexuality a reality.  The main question I get is “can every woman ejaculate”? And my answer is, “I don’t know”. I think the jury is still out on this one as all bodies are so different, unique and special. With Read more…

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5 Bio-Hacks to Better Your Sex Life

First of all, what the heck is a bio-hack? A bio-hack is using systems to improve the quality of your life and freedom in your body and mind.  These systems can range from diet to exercise to positive affirmations – basically anything beneficial that changes your body chemistry from a state of dis-ease and discomfort to a state of health. I am an avid bio-hacker and love having control over the quality of my life! Read more…

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Low Libido Getting you Down?

I have learned from working with hundreds of people that low libido is the bodies natural response to stressors that are going on with the individual or in the relationship. We don’t want to do something that causes pain, displeasure, can be boring, feels unsafe, causes frustration, is mechanical or takes a lot of effort. We are creatures who desire pleasure and comfort. We turn towards activities that make us feel better not worse. If Read more…

Sex vs. Sleep? 7 Useful Tips to Have it All!

Are you and your partner in a struggle between, “I just want to have sex” and, “I just want to sleep”? Maybe you have small kids, run a household while maintaining a full-time job, have financial obligations that are mounting and are attempting to spend time together as a couple enjoying what you worked so hard to create! I hear these two phrases a lot in my practice.  There can be one person in the relationship Read more…

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