I am excited about holding this workshop in the Fall in Los Angeles and San Francisco:
Healing the split within ourselves and our culture by becoming Integrated Women.
Have you ever felt:
- Shame around sexual expression?
- The desire to have a better sex life or sexual expression but that if you did you would be a “bad girl” or “whore”?
- That you spent so much time developing your career and intellectual capacities that you neglected your body or sexuality?
- That your lover or potential lovers would see you as a “slut” if you asked for what you wanted?
- Have you been culturally bred to be a “good girl” by either your family or religion?
- Do you have a lack of sensation in your genitals and wonder if this could be because of shame around sexuality?
Have you ever felt:
- Shame around your sexuality and that society branded you a “whore” or “bad girl”?
- Have you felt that you didn’t have the same priveledge in life because you are a sexually expressed woman?
- Have you felt powerful in your sexuality but undeveloped intellectually (due to lack of education, credentials, schooling etc)
- Do you feel shame around being sexually expressed?
- Were you branded a “slut” at some time in your life and have had to live with the effect of that in love relationships, work, and image?
- Did you develop early and get a lot of attention from boys and become objectified at an early age possibly becoming labeled in a negative way?
In this course we will be:
- Looking at ways that we have embraced shame by denying our bodies pleasure and developing strategies to not feel sexual in order to be a good girl or “Madonna”.
- Examining ways that we feel labeled “whore” if we are passionate about our sexuality.
- Shame that comes up when we use our voices to say what we want. The idea that women are labelled “whore” or “bad girl” by being “too much”, “crazy”, “headstrong”, “demanding”.
- Looking at how we make our selves small to be the good girl.
- Examining our society’s possible suppression of female sexuality and empowerment by making it shameful and using labels to shame.
- Confronting the divide between women who have polarized against each other.
- Working together in groups of two or three. Pairing with women who have identified strongly with the opposite group to heal, learn from and resource each other.
- Naming our fears, our desires and our resistances to growing beyond our labels.
- Using discussion, writing, somatic exercises, visualizations and meditations as tools of this process.
Anya de Montigny, DHS is a sexuality expert with over 20 years experience working with individuals, couples, and groups. Dr. Anya has a Doctor of Human Sexuality (DHS) degree, is a certified sex educator and certified sex coach and was the host of the popular radio show The O Word Sex Talk Radio. Dr. Anya has a private practice in the San Francisco Bay Area working with individuals and couples and invites straight and LGBTQ people into her practice. She also teaches adult sex education classes as well as consent & boundaries workshops at Universities and Colleges.