Have you ever been at a complete loss when your partner asks, “what do you like in bed”? Like many people you may draw a blank when asked this question. The reason why is that being put on the spot about one’s likes and dislikes can be difficult. It’s a Read more…
Has your porn consumption gone from casual use to daily dependence? Are you having a difficult time sexually engaging with your partner because you are used to masturbating to porn? Do you need some help finding ways to scale back your use? Before reading, please note: there is a spectrum Read more…
Anyone in a long-term relationship knows the experience of a dry spell (lack of sexual intimacy) from time to time. Busy lives, opposite schedules, obligations and responsibilities, and even unmet emotional needs can all impact the frequency of sexual connection. For some folks the dry spell extends way beyond a Read more…
(Note: while I am using the gender pronouns she/he this complex may refer to all genders and sexual orientations). The Madonna/Whore Complex is a term that was coined by the psychologist Sigmund Freud. It refers to a man’s inability to achieve sexual arousal with his wife or long-term partner but Read more…
Is your smart phone ruining your sex life? Instant gratification is at our fingertips in the form of news, weather, porn, facebook and instagram, emails, texting and phone calls. We can probably all agree, we are a society obsessed and frankly, addicted, to our smart phones. Dopamine from smart phones. Read more…
Alcohol as sexual lubricant Sex and alcohol often go hand in hand like good bread and creamy butter. It’s hard to imagine one without the other. For many people alcohol acts as an aphrodisiac, a mental and physical lubricant that can take you from the blahs to the oh yeahs Read more…
Are you a head type? The majority of my clients are head types, also known as type A personality. They spend most of their days on the computer, in offices and in and out of meetings. The head type personality dominates our culture and in fact, is looked at as Read more…
Listen to this Blog post on The O Word Podcast Female ejaculation the myth, mystery and glorious possibility! I taught my SquirtGasms! workshops for many years in the San Francisco Bay Area and around the world. Over the many years I taught female ejaculation workshops, the main question I got Read more…
Don’t take it personally. Trust me, I understand. It can be frustrating when you are in the throws of orgasmic bliss and your partner just isn’t there with you. I’ve been there myself and I know it can be hard not to take it personally. But, as soon as I Read more…
“Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way; on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgementally” John Kabatt-Zinn Goal Oriented Masturbation In my practice I see many people who have a goal oriented approach to sex. This approach shows up in the way they approach sex with their partners as Read more…