I had a panel of Sexologists and one Doctor join me for a wonderful discussion about Female Ejaculation at Oakland’s local sex toy shop: Feelmore510.

Madison Young, Dr. Ari ZadelPavini Moray and I dove into the subject of Female Ejaculation and had a lot of fun discussing the controversy.

As Sexologists, we have studied a LOT of sex education, hundreds more than the average doctor. Sexologists are specialists who dedicate our lives to the study of Human Sexuality.  I have first-hand knowledge that Female Ejaculation is not only possible but normal and healthy!  Of course, it is not necessary to ejaculate to have great sex but, if you do or if you want to then go for it!

The controversy that surrounds Female Ejaculation is pretty epic.  To start, Doctors are still on the fence that the G-spot (named after Dr. Grafenberg) exists.  As Dr. Ari Zadel pointed out, “if the medical community can not isolate something in every human body and label it there is not enough proof to be considered part of human anatomy”.  As Sexologists we know that there are varying degrees of size, texture and even sensation in this area of the vagina.  We know that it exists because of thousands of people’s experiences of it.

So why talk about the G-spot?

Around and encompassing the G-spot is the paraurethral sponge. This sponge becomes engorged during sexual arousal with a fluid similar (without the semen) to what men ejaculate: Prostatic fluid.  This fluid drains through glands into the urethra during arousal and gets expelled during ejaculation.  This is pretty darn fascinating and something that has called up quite a lot of controversy.

“Is it pee?”

A valid question to ask! Sure, ejaculate does come out of the urethra, the same place that urine is released, and it can be quite copious in amount, just like pee.  However, when this substance is taken to the lab and analyzed it shows a few things:

1) the presence of prostatic fluid (which is not found in urine),

2) lesser amounts of urea (a substance found in urine) and

3) lesser amounts of creatinine (a substance found in urine).

People also report that it may not have the same color as urine nor does it smell like urine but may have a sweeter smell, an absence of smell or just smell different.

As we discussed in the panel there are still a lot of questions that have not been answered about this ejaculate fluid.  Namely, how can there be so much of it?  And, how is it that even after urinating before sex so much still comes out?  There has not been a ton of study on this subject and we hope that future research will answer those questions.

As always I encourage people to be “sensual researchers” and experiment with what feels good while trying new things.

Check out the following resources and keep studying about it:

Female Ejaculation & the G-Spot by Deborah Sundahl

Urethral Expulsions During Sensual Arousal and Bladder Catheterization in Seven Human Females – Gary Schubach, Ed.D


Check out one of my SquirtGasms! classes or sign up for my monthly Newsletter for the free report “5 Steps to Female Ejaculation”.


Anya de Montigny, DHS is a sexuality expert with over 20 years experience working with individuals, couples, and groups. Dr. Anya has a Doctor of Human Sexuality (DHS) degree, is a certified sex educator and certified sex coach and was the host of the popular radio show The O Word Sex Talk Radio. Dr. Anya has a private practice in the San Francisco Bay Area working with individuals and couples and invites straight and LGBTQ people into her practice. She also teaches adult sex education classes as well as consent & boundaries workshops at Universities and Colleges.


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